How to Make Decisions When You Feel Stuck
Feeling stuck is not a personal flaw. It is usually a signal that you are trying to decide without the right conditions in place. Most people assume that if they think hard enough, clarity will eventually appear. In reality, clarity rarely comes from pushing your mind harder. It comes from slowing the process down enough to see what is actually true.
When someone tells me they feel stuck, it usually means one of three things. They are trying to make a decision too quickly, they are carrying too many variables at once, or they are asking themselves the wrong question.
The first thing to understand is that feeling stuck does not mean you lack motivation. It usually means your system does not trust the options in front of you yet and that matters. If you try to force movement before trust is present, you will either freeze or make a decision you later resent.
A helpful starting point is to stop asking, What should I do? and instead ask, What do I already know is no longer working? That question removes pressure and invites honesty. Most people can answer it immediately.
Next, reduce the decision to one issue. Not your whole life. Not your future. One decision point. When everything feels tangled, it is usually because you are trying to solve multiple problems at the same time. Clarity does not come from solving everything. It comes from identifying the next true step.
It is also important to give decisions time. If you notice urgency, anxiety, or emotional charge around a choice, that is usually a sign that you are too close to it. Distance creates perspective. Perspective creates clarity. Being stuck is not the problem. Rushing yourself out of it is.
If you need help clarifying a decision or identifying the next grounded step, this is the kind of work I do through focused clarity sessions and structured containers. You do not need motivation. You need a process that supports clear thinking.
-Jenn
If you want structured support with decision clarity, you can explore ways to work with me here.
